Parents guide to teen dating
You can only try to give them the skills and support that set the foundation for doing it themselves.Q: How can I tell if my teen might want to talk to me?Don’t assume that the victim wants to leave the abusive relationship. Finding the right moment to talk about abuse can seem like a daunting task.Things Not to Say or Do Do not be critical of your teen or his/her partner.Don’t ask blaming questions such as: “Why don’t you break up with him/her? ” Don’t pressure your teen into making quick decisions. The victim may feel inhibited about what he/she can say.Talk about the abuse when you are sharing time together. Let your teen know how concerned you are about his/her safety, well-being and security. Remember, if your teen does open up to you, it is possible that you will hear uncomfortable details.Be sure to have specific examples to share with your son or daughter that concern you. It is imperative that you are nonjudgmental by focusing on resolving the problem (the behavior) rather than criticizing your teen. Let your teen have some control in making decisions.
Q: What should I hope to get out of the conversation? This means that through the process of your conversation, you want to support your child and confirm that you are a good resource and a nonjudgmental listener.
The use of alcohol or other drugs could be a teen’s response to pressure from his/her partner.
It may also be an attempt to numb pain or emotions.
Anytime your teenager wants to talk to you, drop everything and pay attention.
Watch for signs of your teen wanting to talk, such as if your teen hangs around where you are but doesn't necessarily say anything, or if your teen says he or she doesn't feel well but there doesn't seem to be anything physically wrong.